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Apr. 28th, 2009 02:44 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
shapinglightOkay, said I was going to spam, and since this subject is horribly embarrassing for me, I might as well get it off my chest rightaway.
Ahem! I am a feedback whore.
Not that it's True Confessions Week on LJ, or anything, but since I was brought up to think that trying to attract attention to yourself was un-British or unfeminine, or un-something, admitting this is a lot harder than the subject (which is very trivial, I know) actually warrants.
I thought at first I would try and pretend to be all scientific and impersonal and put up some kind of poll so you could all join me in admitting you were also feedback whores, or else take the moral high ground and say getting feedback was a matter of indifference to you. However, implicating you all in my horrible character flaw didn't seem very fair, so I didn't do it.
Anyway, I am one. I wish I wasn't. I wish I was like![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
peasant_ who not only doesn't like getting feedback, but actively discourages it by making it as hard as possible for people to give her any and glaring at them a lot when they do, but I'm not. Getting told people have enjoyed something I've written is one of the best feelings in the world for me. Likewise, not getting any feedback, or not much feedback, for something I've written makes me grumpy, and I have to own up to it.
:sigh: Oh well. Never claimed to be perfect. Should I have done the poll after all, or have I embarrassed myself enough already? Or, indeed, are you asking yourself, what on earth is wrong with wanting/liking to receive feedback? It's a British/women's/old person's problem. Get over it.
Ahem! I am a feedback whore.
Not that it's True Confessions Week on LJ, or anything, but since I was brought up to think that trying to attract attention to yourself was un-British or unfeminine, or un-something, admitting this is a lot harder than the subject (which is very trivial, I know) actually warrants.
I thought at first I would try and pretend to be all scientific and impersonal and put up some kind of poll so you could all join me in admitting you were also feedback whores, or else take the moral high ground and say getting feedback was a matter of indifference to you. However, implicating you all in my horrible character flaw didn't seem very fair, so I didn't do it.
Anyway, I am one. I wish I wasn't. I wish I was like
peasant_ who not only doesn't like getting feedback, but actively discourages it by making it as hard as possible for people to give her any and glaring at them a lot when they do, but I'm not. Getting told people have enjoyed something I've written is one of the best feelings in the world for me. Likewise, not getting any feedback, or not much feedback, for something I've written makes me grumpy, and I have to own up to it. :sigh: Oh well. Never claimed to be perfect. Should I have done the poll after all, or have I embarrassed myself enough already? Or, indeed, are you asking yourself, what on earth is wrong with wanting/liking to receive feedback? It's a British/women's/old person's problem. Get over it.
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Date: 2009-04-28 03:06 pm (UTC)Admitting too that getting praise is both really awesome and also embarrassing. Compliments are embarrassing in general for me. IDK why. I'm not even British. :D
But most readers are not going to comment, even if they like something, after the first few days following a post. LJ is weird like that. People feel kind of stalker-y commenting on older posts or something.
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Date: 2009-04-28 08:30 pm (UTC)What a sensible person - sending it to you by email, I mean. I think that's much the best and most helpful way to do it personally. I do love long, well-thought out comments myself but I'm happy if people can't manage more than a 'I liked that', mainly because I'm aware how crap I am at delivering much that's useful in the f/b department myself these days. I'm sure I used to be better. Dunno what happened.
Compliments are embarrassing in general for me. IDK why. I'm not even British. :D
Ah. Glad it's not just confined to us, and I'm sure there are lots and lots of British people who don't feel the way I do, especially younger people.
LJ is weird like that. People feel kind of stalker-y commenting on older posts or something.
You think so? Surely not with fic posts. Maybe with personal stuff when you know the person has long since stopped thinking about it.
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Date: 2009-04-28 08:38 pm (UTC)I don't always have something deep to say either, besides something like: "Great story - I loved it!"
And yup. Older stories get fewer new comments even if they're recced and get more views than they did right after being posted on a comm. At least on LJ.
I work with web stats as part of my job. Most people lurk and read and don't comment for whatever reason. :)
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Date: 2009-04-29 07:09 pm (UTC)Oh yes, I'm sure that's true everywhere. I see it in microcosm on my other LJ, which is flocked. The flist is quite big, but of all those people, a lot of whom have asked me to friend them, only about 15 or so people comment regularly.
I can understand preferring to lurk. I was like that myself for a long time.