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[shapinglight]

Okay, said I was going to spam, and since this subject is horribly embarrassing for me, I might as well get it off my chest rightaway.

Ahem! I am a feedback whore.



Not that it's True Confessions Week on LJ, or anything, but since I was brought up to think that trying to attract attention to yourself was un-British or unfeminine, or un-something, admitting this is a lot harder than the subject (which is very trivial, I know) actually warrants.

I thought at first I would try and pretend to be all scientific and impersonal and put up some kind of poll so you could all join me in admitting you were also feedback whores, or else take the moral high ground and say getting feedback was a matter of indifference to you. However, implicating you all in my horrible character flaw didn't seem very fair, so I didn't do it.

Anyway, I am one. I wish I wasn't. I wish I was like peasant_ who not only doesn't like getting feedback, but actively discourages it by making it as hard as possible for people to give her any and glaring at them a lot when they do, but I'm not. Getting told people have enjoyed something I've written is one of the best feelings in the world for me. Likewise, not getting any feedback, or not much feedback, for something I've written makes me grumpy, and I have to own up to it.

:sigh: Oh well. Never claimed to be perfect. Should I have done the poll after all, or have I embarrassed myself enough already? Or, indeed, are you asking yourself, what on earth is wrong with wanting/liking to receive feedback? It's a British/women's/old person's problem. Get over it.

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[cafedemonde.livejournal.com]

I lurves FB and really want it a lot! So don't feel bad. I kinda feel like if I could sit down and write for hours and try to put out something cohesive, interesting, sometimes smutty, in-character, ...well you get the picture... If I can do that and someone reads it, please just hit reply and let me know if it works.

People say they love a certain fic, then I post that fic, which for a while was a very difficult thing for me to do because of serious lack of time, and I get like two comments. It is discouraging and may be, unconsciously, why I am not all gung-ho to write as much as I once was.

Or I could just be reading too much fic and that's taking up my free time :-)

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Or I could just be reading too much fic and that's taking up my free time :-)

Well, it does take up a lot of time, and we are all very busy for the most part. It's difficult portioning online time up into writing time/reading time. I think I have to try and get better at it (something I fear I've been saying for years).

I'm glad to discover I'm not the only one who craves f/b, though truthfully I was pretty sure I wasn't. Still feel a bit embarrassed about this post, because honestly where f/b goes, I still do okay for the most part. But if it encourages me to try and f/b other people more then it's a good thing, right?

[cafedemonde.livejournal.com]

Yes, it is a two-way street. Generally, if I read your fic, then I'll give FB, even it is just, a few words, so you know I'm out there.

Only if I hated it will I pass on FB because I dont want to be rude and what I might dislike about a fic, someone else may love, so its all relative, right?

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Yes, one man's meat is another man's poison, as they say.